Category Archives: Death and living while dying
The shay disintegrates
The shay disintegrates to take part in next’s growing :- Doug.
What in life is the value?
Whom do you want deciding your end of life? Deciding what? What does this tell the grandchildren about what in life is the value? Tell the grandchildren…what in life is the value? :- Doug.
5 minutes after your death
Imagine you observing the people closest to you, 5 minutes after your death; 5 weeks. Observe now the animals nearby, pets, wild animals, birds, insects at those same 5 minutes and 5 weeks. Now observe these same people and animals … Continue reading →
Pass along?
Will you pass on, or pass along? :- Doug.
Not pathological
Death is not by definition pathological. :- Doug.
Can we cure grief?
We are not about curing grief. Can we cure grief? We are not about getting beyond grief. We are about growing, even when we do not want to grow, about living even when we do not want to live. :- … Continue reading →
The work of the living-dying
End of life work is not just something we do to the dying, but what work are the living-dying doing? What message do they convey? What message do we draw out? It is with: working with. :- Doug.
O the possibilities of you!
Sooner or later your particles all go back to random pieces of all there is ready to reassemble into something else O the possibilities of you! :-Doug.
See dying all about
I go about telling people—nicely, obliquely—they are going to die, and asking how they want to have it done to them. Yet it may be wasted motion—in a few decades there may be so many of us around that we … Continue reading →
Gentle welcoming
Read a chapter in Lewis Thomas’s The Lives of a Cell this morning. He cites William Osler as saying there is no such thing as the agony of dying. I can see that death can be peaceful, maybe always is, … Continue reading →
In real life, death
In real life, death is something we rarely witness these days, so we begin to think there is no death, in real life :- Doug.
Take in the death of another
When you take in the death of another you can know that your death and the other’s makes you equals. :- Doug.
Why personify death?
Why do we want to personify death? To make of it a friend or foe? To understand? To become intimate? To soften? :- Doug.
Getting intimate with death
I want to get more intimate with my death: it might help me become more intimate with others. It might help me take me less seriously and more lightly. :- Doug.
Hold your death
Hold your death for a moment. Let it learn of you. :- Doug.
Tell us about when someone died
Tell us about when someone died. :- Doug.
Journal a conversation with death personified
Journal a conversation with death personified. Write questions ahead: —What do you think of me? —What ought I think of you? —Will you be gentle? —Are you my friend? —Are you a loner or do you like lots? :- Doug.