Category Archives: Death and living while dying
Video: Consider the Conversation
This is a wonderful video excerpts from which I have shown to Boomer Bootcamp audiences. It is about end of life decisions–everything from CPR to compassionate care in our final days and hours. My wife and I also watched … Continue reading →
Your heart is ripped in two
Dead! Just like that! Your heart is ripped in two this wound never heals somehow from your dwindling blood comes a larger completeness of you compassion for others in varied pains from brokenness, wholeness :- Doug.
CPR and violence
If you’re about non-violence, where are you on the question of CPR? :- Doug.
No, you said,
No, you said, and fought off tears —how dreaded the diagnosis But now I ask you be gentle with yourself say how—then say how again— you would like to see this ending :- Doug.
When there’s a hole in the world
When the beloved dies, let us be ready to ask in love: What will you miss? What did you not do you wish you had? What specific thing can you do to carry out in a larger way what you … Continue reading →
What are your pictures of death?
In this country we are fixated on death, and as a bad thing. It might be whole-making. We so fear death that our only pictures are of debilitation, even when we hear stories of people dying peacefully, perhaps with families … Continue reading →
Death brings a duty
Death brings a duty and we create ritual to remember and more, glassy waters in which to reflect :- Doug.
Your grief-cursor
What would you write With your grief-cursor? What is the rhythm What the rhyme Of your father’s shrinking mind And future? Where the wholeness Can you help—or allow—the Circle to close This breach that feels so heavy, today? :- Doug.
Very common
To die is very common: everyone does it. We do not have to fret over it: it will come as it comes and we have only a little say. But the say we have might be important to those around … Continue reading →
Common
Touch a hand hear a pain hug a child make love make a Will drink hot chocolate with a friend worship To die is very common :- Doug.
The Hospice Holler
This is a story of a Granddaughter trying to get her Grandmother into an nursing home. Grandmother had been in hospice care. When the caseworker found out they were planning to give all Grandmother had away and enter the … Continue reading →
Mom’s flower bed
Mom’s flower bed Won’t get tended this year Dad is lost Sis will plant the annuals & I will weed Dad is lost & needs our help Our children will be calling us & life does tug Dad is becoming … Continue reading →
Living life alone
How does one live life, alone, Without another to share? How does one await death? And yet, awaiting death Is not the object of our years, But living the moments, Giving the moments. One must find, Or let one’s self … Continue reading →
Larger than the law
The world is larger than the law Than medicine and finance all These speak not or too seldom of— The widower’s lostness and having no one to call home Eight year olds chasing away from casket White chickens and red … Continue reading →
carrying loves and packages
I am carrying loves and packages As I walk along If I fall Who shall pick these up And how Will they love and carry To their destinations? :- Doug.
Death ends a work…
Death— Ends a work Starts a work Life continues Stops our tracks Brings up histories Makes room Dumps good with bad Throws us together Raises questions of peace, justice, love How shall we together? Or shall we? :- Doug.