Category Archives: Death and living while dying
To make us disappear
To make us disappear To live toward our death This is what we are about Every day & month & year Not fearing but courting When we seek to be part To fit in, to have faith & esprit de … Continue reading →
Unhappily
No one wants to die unhappily. And yet, sometimes we force this on each other. :- Doug.
How do we want to be present…?
How do we want to be present when we die? :- Doug.
Have you witnessed…?
Have you witnessed someone dying? How has that influenced your picture of how you want to die? :- Doug.
In dying why focus on family?
When someone is dying, why focus on the family? The heart of all of them is dying. :- Doug.
Provoking caring conversations?
How shall we provoke and disturb people into caring conversations? Collect stories of how people were made to die in suffering. :- Doug.
Medicine is
Medicine is a friend touching your hand in the hospital, a doctor kindly telling you it is OK to say good-bye to your husband, another doctor saying people only die because I do not know enough to keep them alive. … Continue reading →
Don’t make me fight
Don’t make me fight when I don’t want to anymore. :- Doug.
Living until we die?
How then shall we live until we die? How shall we die as we live? Does dying have to be a separate thing, even with its mystery? :- Doug.
It is up to us as well
How will we know when it’s time to say goodbye? Because it is up to us as well. We know it is up to us because we have seen people stay around for a holiday or a grandchild’s wedding, or … Continue reading →
What is the most fun you can have dying?
What is the most fun you can have dying? :- Doug.
Right living in your last days?
What is right living in your last days? :- Doug.
How can they happen reliably?
How can we help the conversations happen reliably, involving as many of the group of care givers (of whatever profession), family and our living person? :- Doug.
Nurture us:
End of life conversations can nurture us. :- Doug.
You deserve a chance:
You deserve a chance. A chance to live as you want. :- Doug.
Not simply dragging out
Conversation is not about simply dragging out what’s inside you. It is about shaping it. It is about discovering it. It is about co-creating it. I had not thought about dying on the boat dock till my friend Jerry voiced … Continue reading →
Living our fullest, dying
What would it mean to you to be living to your fullest—on your death bed? :- Doug.