Category Archives: Death and living while dying
We should all give up
If we think death is a failure we should all give up. :- Doug.
When do we ask a child?
When do we ask the child what they want? At the death of a guppy a puppy or Pappy? :- Doug.
A sacred/secret thing
Dying is a sacred secret thing :- Doug.
Slow me!
Slow me, slow me! Sometimes I want to quickly move along. Yet the best of life is always here. :- Doug.
The silent vow
Don’t put off “until the time” sharing what you want when seriously ill: if you can converse at that time, it may happen that no one will want to break the silent vow of “keep life going.” You can exercise … Continue reading →
Before I go?
What is the most important thing I need to share with my family before I go? :- Doug.
Too early–so far–not yet
Let us use phrases like too early—so far—not yet. It is compassionate. It says there is more good to come, more good for us to find. Together. :- Doug.
Dying slowly
Today we have all these chronic diseases. So we die slowly, over weeks and months and years. We are perhaps too early in this phase to realize that dying is a human event we must work with and care about. … Continue reading →
The quality of our dying?
We speak of quality of life but do we ask What is the quality of our dying? :- Doug.
When someone is dying
When someone is dying There’s a land out beyond hope Where help & despair & hope & love & all the rest Can meet We can do one next right thing Even if the right thing Cannot be known :- … Continue reading →
Is there anybody alive in dying?
Is there anybody alive in dying? :- Doug.
Will you be alive in your dying?
Will you be alive in your dying? :- Doug.
“There will be time later”
“There will be time later” we thoughtlessly believe to live our out higher intentions to love, to dream, to act & then the car spins on an icy patch :- Doug.
Something to give us
People in need have something to give us. All people have something for others. :- Doug.
What do we want to create together?
What do we want to create together? In this community, and around the question of end of life caring conversations? :- Doug.
O Sandy Hook
O Sandy Hook I am on the rim of an endless sea of tears! each time I recall your twenty young beautiful lively children lying in their own blood laughter & learning & ricochets mingled now, echoing away Mourn, America! … Continue reading →
Uncertainty
Uncertainty is all we have :- Doug.