Category Archives: Death and living while dying
about justice but more than that
It’s about justice but more than that It’s so no one will be made to suffer That we must converse about end of life :- Doug.
Can we better help those approaching death?
Can we better help those approaching death? Can we do death better? Let’s get very specific, speak of your job—we each have a role, from nurse to banker. :- Doug.
Sand our fingertips
The way we make this the best place to die is to sand our fingertips: to develop our sensitivity to people and their way of dying. Our compassion. We put ourselves in their shoes—won’t we get there someday, too? How … Continue reading →
News: renewing our resolve for respecting patient’s wishes
Friends– Here is a Senate hearing on “Renewing the Conversation: Respecting patients’ Wishes and Advance Care Planning” from June 26, 2013. Worth a look. http://www.aging.senate.gov/hearing_detail.cfm?id=344148& :- Doug.
to face the word “death”
It may be courage that we need: to face the word “death,” to look upon a real person dying, to confront our own. :- Doug.
All is working as it should
All is working as it should. :- Doug.
Closing and completing
If people are seeking closing and completing, rounding of their togethering, then their relatings need to heal. This is the purpose of forgiving and thanking and blessing and loving: to make whole. This comes about through radical conversing: saying what … Continue reading →
Radical conversing heals
End of life conversing is vitally important to me because radical conversing heals. Because radical hearing heals. :- Doug.
A work of parent and child, and of lovers
The end of life conversation is a work, a work of parent and child, of lovers. It is a work of life, of a lifetime, of art. It is bringing us together, and in this is my higher work, and … Continue reading →
Completing our living is peeling an onion:
Completing our living is peeling an onion: First we complete our work in the world, then our relationships with community, then with friends. The final layer is our relation with closest of family and here we seek to complete intimacy. … Continue reading →
a warp and woof you cannot unweave
We cannot center solely on autonomy. Autonomy with family makes sense: both are true to life, at least in this day and age. It comes down to this: love flows in many directions. What you want is mediated by the … Continue reading →
The classical guides in dying
Beauty—to round out one’s life Truth—to receive justice, the care one wants Goodness—to receive and give kindness with others The classical guides can serve us in dying :- Doug.
Why does it matter?
Why does it matter? Because it’s a way of being kind to one another. :- Doug.
The end of life conversation is about justice–
The end of life conversation is about justice—giving each one what he or she wants—about love—caring for each other—about wholeness—allowing and helping one another have the wholeness we choose. :- Doug.
We’re all amateurs
On the subject of dying, we’re all amateurs. :- Doug.
What is the work people are doing dying?
What is the work people are doing dying? :- Doug.
Why people don’t know what they want
The reasons most people do not know what they want are they haven’t thought about it and they don’t know what are their choices. :- Doug.