Category Archives: Death and living while dying
How to be a burden
You can be a burden on your family at end of life by stressing them, giving emotional pain, keeping them in the dark—not just by being a financial burden. More so, not letting people help or love you is a … Continue reading →
memento vitae
Maybe what our culture needs for our end of life conversation is some serious time for memento mori, memento vitae. :- Doug.
Life after death?
Life after death? Love after death! :- Doug.
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Helping Dad care for Mom
I am helping Dad care for Mom, and still be able to eat and live at home. But more, I am helping families come to terms with each other and with Mom’s new normal. In the community I am helping … Continue reading →
Getting to help
I get to help people in the crises of nursing home, long-term illness, and death. This is very fulfilling because I get to do much good. :- Doug.
No 200 year old people
The thrust/intention needs to be to find the commonalities among this family, and where they think they need to get, given that there are no 200 year old people out there. :- Doug.
Loss
All change requires loss Great change requires great loss What cost will we consciously pay? Firm ground vanishes We step into the void The price demands something we clutch Or we see nothing more precious :- Doug.
Passing
Passing on Passing over Or simply passing Namby-pamby our euphemisms We can’t say it Because it would reveal That we missed the mark That we did nothing with this life Least of all lived it In our life we were … Continue reading →
The final frontier?
Death: the final frontier. :- Doug.
This can be a good thing
This can be a good thing. :- Doug.
Change is scary
Change is scary if you’re the one changed change is also growth :- Doug.
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Die in my sleep–I would never!
Die in my sleep—I would never! I want to be there, face it square on Die in a bed, family around—no! I want my privacy, I want to be standing up to it Die as my family says—no way! They … Continue reading →
What would make your death good?
What would make your death good? Quick, fighting, pain-free, with family gathered about, alone, conscious, sleeping, something else? What would your hands, legs, body, head be doing? :- Doug.
If I had my way
If I had my way, this is what I would do to make my death the happiest, most gentle. :- Doug.
loving in new ways
Parents, children and spouse love each other in new ways in unexpected situations. :- Doug.
Birth and death—
Birth and death— both sacred :- Doug.
most ordinary leftovers
This conversation you are about to have around end of life preferences is the most ordinary thing possible. It’s about the folks left behind, the leftovers. :- Doug.