Category Archives: Death and living while dying
death and anonymity
To endure the death and sufferings of patients doctors can distance themselves from names and relationships. But what if the deaths are contributed to by anonymity, what if our attitude toward persons—persons!—directly caused the suffering? Theirs and ours? :- Doug.
a more gentle outcome
Why do everything possible to keep someone alive when nature has decided a more gentle outcome? :- Doug.
someday you will not be allowed
Someday you will not be allowed to decide find out now decide now for when :- Doug.
frame your life?
Since every chapter reframes everything before how will you have your death frame your life? :- Doug.
The 20-L-10 rule
The 20-L-10 Rule: When you have the doctor for 20 minutes—take your list—devote 10 minutes to the end of life conversation. :- Doug.
Fear to die?
Fear to die and become a drop Disappearing into the sea? Maybe the sea And your drop Is now :- Doug.
how to be truthful
We don’t know how to be truthful to one another about dying. :- Doug.
If I die a sudden death
If I die a sudden death Let it be while doing something I love So I need always to be… :- Doug.
not about death
This is not about death, nor even about dying: rather about living as we are dying, for surely we are all dying. :- Doug.
Narrowing circles
Narrowing circles Community to family to nuclear family Might be clues to approaching death :- Doug.
when we must cry
Let us teach each other how to live when we must cry :- Doug.
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A third choice
Most people think that their only choices when facing a “nothing more we can do” declaration are 1. do everything; 2. Give up. A third choice is to make each day good, as good as we can. :- Doug.
It’s really reflection and heart work
It’s really reflection and heart work, even though on the surface we are talking about nursing homes, Medicaid, and end of life decisions. :- Doug.
family and what matters
My work is with elders in crisis. My work is with reflection and heart, truth and beauty, family and what matters. People caring for people in a nursing home setting. In an end of life setting. Crisis does name nursing … Continue reading →
What can we make of this news?
I will give you news you already know: Mom is going to die. Now, what can we make of the next months and years? :- Doug.
How many need to have the end of life conversation?
How many people need to have the end of life conversation? In our country? Our state? :- Doug.
What’s the one thing we have to do right?
What’s the one thing we have to do right? Let’s make a way. :- Doug.
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