Category Archives: Death and living while dying
Write a better one
Now go home and write it better, or write a better one. :- Doug.
Write 6 stories
Write 6 stories of your everyday deaths. :- Doug.
Is it important how our stories come to a close?
Is it important how our stories come to a close? Do we want them to whimper, be encased in pain, gentle our loved ones? :- Doug.
I am about to die
I am about to die. I am walking into a forest dark. I cannot see another side. I may die many others, indeed I can hope to die many others, before this body disintegrates back to elements. Death, the way … Continue reading →
in life
How we treat each other in life becomes stark at dying-time anger and using, caring and gentleness :- Doug.
becoming
Dying we now see as becoming. :- Doug.
becoming friends with dying
Dying as we grow acquainted with it becomes giving and loving and reaching out. So live my eldering days that I am becoming friends with dying, that my dying becomes: my dying becomes me and vice versa. :- Doug.
Waging an heroic embrace
She waged an heroic battle against her disease, we say. Why give the disease that much power? Can we find some stories to tell, some conversations we need with which to embrace one another? :- Doug.
living work
The living part of us has work to do right up to the very end. :- Doug.
Die alone
To let someone die alone and in severe pain is a failure of medical (and human) imagination :- Doug.
Done to–or being-doing?
Done to—or being-doing: this is the end of life question. :- Doug.
To ease, clear, calm, gentle
Dying is perhaps a time to ease, to clear, to calm, to gentle. :- Doug.
Peacefully, comfortably
People can and do die peacefully, comfortably. :- Doug.
Use well the time
Is being in hospital a good way to use well the time you have left? :- Doug.
Struggling or peaceful?
Should you die struggling or peaceful? :- Doug.
Crazy talk sense
The sense to use with crazy talk in the dying is Let’s find out. Be curious. Ask. He might just be using metaphor or saying it in story. She might just want assurances that you will be OK, that she … Continue reading →
Being done to
In a hospital you’re being done to, no questions please; in hospice you are doing, all questions welcome. :- Doug.