Category Archives: Conversation

Whom will you elder?

Whom will you elder? Children and youth to imagine and fire an upward future? Adults and middlers to lift their eyes to stars above and worlds around? Your community to find perspective? Your fellow elders to find and create our … Continue reading

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To miss these….

The soul is not in the body but the body in the soul The poetry is not in the words but the words in the poetry The conversation is not in the persons but the persons in the conversation The … Continue reading

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Meet this Thou

The task of the elder is to meet this Thou: here being and doing are one. :- Doug.

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Done to–or being-doing?

Done to—or being-doing: this is the end of life question. :- Doug.

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With the generations

What is the conversation you want to have with the generations, both past and future? How have you contributed to where we are today—by either adding to it, or withholding yourself? :- Doug.

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Spoken with the being

Conversation is spoken with the being. :- Doug.

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Threat and blessing

The more you converse The more we become interwoven :- Doug.

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Death in conversation

Our death in conversation is real and risky: we may not emerge on the other side. So we have a choice. Here is a threshold. :- Doug.

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Do not need words

The important conversations do not all need words. :- Doug.

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Stop talking

Stop talking so much! Converse! :- Doug.

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Crazy talk sense

The sense to use with crazy talk in the dying is Let’s find out. Be curious. Ask. He might just be using metaphor or saying it in story. She might just want assurances that you will be OK, that she … Continue reading

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Discussing without conversing

Discussing without conversing is butterfly without flowers. :- Doug.

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Listening without hearing

Listening without hearing is a common wasted effort. :- Doug.

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Plan your EOL conversation

Ask yourself to plan your end of life conversation: What will you do? Is there someone you need to speak with? What bit of life is then most important? Where will you meet? When? :- Doug.

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Deeply ever deeply

Deeply ever deeply how to meet? close your eyes to see where is the fear? the broken open heart? :- Doug.

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Eye lights

Meeting about end of life matters, like any meeting, is a search for eye lights. :- Doug.

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Dying is a conversation

Dying is a conversation we have with life and with those near us. It can be a rich give and take and being together in silence, or it can be a fading into nothingness. :- Doug.

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