Category Archives: Caring

A journey we make together

Posted on December 11, 2013 by dgermann

A journey we make together Dad is dying The dialysis is not doing any good Dad is fighting dying but getting tired Mom and daughter try to ask “the question” Maybe we can get the doctor To start the conversation … Continue reading →

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in the tears?

Posted on December 6, 2013 by dgermann

Is life happiest in the tears? :- Doug.

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Holding hands

Posted on December 3, 2013 by dgermann

Holding hands A glance exchanged Hugging A walk together in the autumn leaves A touch Humming along in a group with an old song Playing tic-tac-toe Many the ways we converse :- Doug.

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Help me speak from my dementia

Posted on December 2, 2013 by dgermann

Help me speak from my dementia Since I have trouble thinking But I feel, I see, I exist I want to love you And be respected Because I am, still I remember, I remember The songs, the dances, The babies … Continue reading →

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Compassion when?

Posted on November 16, 2013 by dgermann

When do we need to first consider compassion for those approaching death? Do we stop too soon? :- Doug.

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Where compassion?

Posted on November 15, 2013 by dgermann

Where are our community’s nutrient places where compassion can first take root? Where in yourself are your senses of injustice, ethics, conscience and rage? Where in yourself can you find the strength and resolve to stand up for, to speak … Continue reading →

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Compassion acts

Posted on November 14, 2013 by dgermann

What are the compassionate practices already at work in this place? What is this place? What can it be? Can compassionate community mean something concrete to this place? What specific skills and attitudes lead to compassionate caring for those approaching … Continue reading →

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Compassion how?

Posted on November 13, 2013 by dgermann

How might we show compassion for each of the persons we have identified? What might compassion look like, beyond what we are already doing? What are the barriers and things which slow our compassion, and how might we get beyond … Continue reading →

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For whom compassion?

Posted on November 12, 2013 by dgermann

For whom do we need to have compassion? The dying, their families, their nurses and doctors? Someone else? Who are our community’s exemplars of compassion? Who are the faces of compassion in our community? Whom should we invite to this … Continue reading →

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Possible links: POST and compassion?

Posted on November 7, 2013 by dgermann

What are the possible links between POST and a compassionate community? :- Doug.

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Where is love in POST?

Posted on November 6, 2013 by dgermann

Where is love in POST? Where is love in Conversation? Where is compassion? :- Doug.

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Clients and lawyers, patients and doctors: growing together

Posted on October 15, 2013 by dgermann

We have this picture of us as lawyers sitting here across the desk from clients, working on them and their static issues and opportunities. Of course we know it is a moving target, but we see ourselves and our clients … Continue reading →

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Wise not to retire:

Posted on September 22, 2013 by dgermann

For me it seems wise not to retire: I might stop doing the few community things I am doing, I might no longer have the get-it-started quality of heart. :- Doug.

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Neediness is a gift

Posted on September 20, 2013 by dgermann

Neediness in a conversation is as much of a gift as that by a know-it-all. The commerce is in information through ideas through creativity to real wisdom, and each of these opens the doors to meaningful exchange. It might be … Continue reading →

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What you see is your eye

Posted on September 18, 2013 by dgermann

The opening segment of the film Consider the Conversation shows older people in nursing homes having difficulty doing therapy, eating messily. Some folks see this as denigrating folks or making fun. Others see it as finding our compassion. What you … Continue reading →

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We cannot solve life

Posted on September 10, 2013 by dgermann

We know that we cannot solve life We can only predict the probabilities And choose :- Doug.

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We need not build bridges

Posted on September 8, 2013 by dgermann

We need not build bridges from human to human we already have gossamer we see, we hear, we touch we are touched :- Doug.

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