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Is suffering intrinsic?

Joan Berzoff on Friday said suffering is intrinsic to dying. I ask if that is so. Or do we mistake the work, do we mistake arduous for suffering? Do we get in the way? :- Doug.

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Hear the lessons

Hence, a lot of thinking about what that transformation might be. My clients can guide me, ought to be the guides. But we can do more, much more for them, than simply the technical grunt work of the Medicaid application. … Continue reading

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Baker’s Implementing:

Baker’s Implementing. Baker seems to prompt things from me. Just this morning he spoke of the professional as transforming the client. This is a higher step than service and higher than experience: help the client to become better. :- Doug.

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Crisis changed family

This crisis has changed your family. In what ways would you like it to change you as a family and personally? :- Doug.

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Family to be?

What do you want your family to do? Whom do you want your family to be? :- Doug.

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Things we ignore

The things we ignore as attorneys—the feelings, the desire to have the family get along, etc—are the main event for the client and her family. We could help. :- Doug.

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Whom they will be

Families become whom they will be after Dad is in the nursing home, and dies. :- Doug.

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What’s work of dying?

What is the work of dying? :- Doug.

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Find where to be

Tell a juicier story, make more meaning-filled moments for this leg of the journey. This is a profound time, when we find where to be. :- Doug.

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Add to that conversation

I actually have some things to add to that conversation. I can elicit that kind of conversation, evoke it. We could do some story catching. Find someone to help with scrapbooking and story writing. (The lady I met at Forever … Continue reading

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More life in time together

More life out of their days, out of the time they have together—this is something we can help find. :- Doug.

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Just have higher?

Can we just have higher humanity? :- Doug.

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Suffering intrinsic?

Is suffering intrinsic to dying, or is dying just arduous? :- Doug.

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No, I don’t do Wills

No, I don’t do Wills. Unless you mean counseling with people on how they might best help their family and community with what they leave behind—and especially how. :- Doug.

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Want to live their love

People want to live their love when someone needs help in age. I can help these people. :- Doug.

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You fresh eyes?

Are you fresh eyes? :- Doug.

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Fresh eyes path?!

See how these fresh eyes are lighting a new path?! :- Doug.

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