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Have you ever met anyone…?

Posted on April 19, 2012 by dgermann

Have you ever met anyone else whose work is elder conversations? These conversations run the range from how to live well within the budget and family we have, to how to live the last chapter of our lives. They often … Continue reading →

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to remind me

Posted on April 19, 2012 by dgermann

I call myself an Elder Caring Attorney to remind me to be caring. :- Doug.

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Room for us professionals to be more than technicians

Posted on April 18, 2012 by dgermann

There is room for us as professionals to be more than technicians. There is still a role for us to be compassionate. You can make a difference. You can be kind and caring. Perhaps that’s why you got into this … Continue reading →

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Doctors, nurses, social workers:

Posted on April 18, 2012 by dgermann

Doctors, nurses, social workers, all you who assist us in dying well: Think of a time when you did this well. Tell us the story. What made it good? What made it comfortable or got you through the uncomfortable parts? … Continue reading →

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Nervousness and the last chapter

Posted on April 17, 2012 by dgermann

I am disorganizing our community nervousness around the last chapter. :- Doug.

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Beyond exchanging information

Posted on April 17, 2012 by dgermann

Even though this is love at work, don’t think that in this conversation you are only exchanging information. (I love this word invent for two of its meanings: one means create; a second much older meaning sounds strange to our … Continue reading →

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Not primarily a medical decision

Posted on April 16, 2012 by dgermann

End of life is not primarily a medical decision. Nor legal. In this age when acute illnesses have become chronic, it is becoming more and more a personal decision. But people don’t know that they have a choice, or when. … Continue reading →

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End of life living

Posted on April 16, 2012 by dgermann

End of life is not a slag heap, a pile of decaying refuse. Living happens here. How can we best serve life? :- Doug.

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When it comes my time to die….

Posted on April 15, 2012 by dgermann

It’s seldom a question of knowing when to say when, but of working it out. When I write a poem there are a hundred right ways to say what needs to be said. My primary urge is to express the … Continue reading →

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Starting what cannot be finished….

Posted on April 15, 2012 by dgermann

In living with our families—elder and younger together—do we play together in a way that what we are starting cannot be finished? :- Doug.

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When to say when….

Posted on April 14, 2012 by dgermann

I think ordinary people—not just professionals—need to know when to say when. I need your help so we can all learn this skill—invent this skill. :- Doug.

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Freeing elders from prison….

Posted on April 14, 2012 by dgermann

We have to think more broadly—we have to free our elders from the prisons we put them in. We need to return them to home and family—even if we have to create new forms of home and family. :- Doug.

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When someone is dying….

Posted on April 13, 2012 by dgermann

When someone is dying the rules of living change. How they see life, how we see each other, how we see our roles with the dying person and the rest of the family—all these change. But they can change for … Continue reading →

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Long-term care is not about who pays but how we choose to live.

Posted on April 13, 2012 by dgermann

Long-term care is not about who pays but how we choose to live. :- Doug.

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A message from your children

Posted on April 12, 2012 by dgermann

I have a message for you. From your children. But they’re afraid to bring it up, are even repulsed by the very idea. It falls to you then to do something about it. Because this is how we love one … Continue reading →

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Curing, healing, dementia, play

Posted on April 12, 2012 by dgermann

Though I cannot cure you, I can help heal you, restore you to play. Can those with dementia play? Do we have the love to play with them? To learn from them? :- Doug.

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Family Council: something begins

Posted on April 11, 2012 by dgermann

One purpose of Family Council is to open space for inspired, workable next steps, in a setting where We is more important than Do, in a setting where the next steps are confused. Something begins. :- Doug.

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