I represent dying people…to you I represent your mother, father, sister, husband, wife I represent the older you to you Generations of dying people—us To us Asking us to consider what is a good death & how we can get … Continue reading →

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Someone who died well….

Posted on March 25, 2013 by dgermann

Tell us a story of someone who died well…. Tell us what the people around that person did to help make it good. :- Doug.

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Can you identify these elders?

Posted on March 24, 2013 by dgermann

I need your help to identify elders who bring wisdom and a longer view to those around them and the world…. :- Doug.

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Whose ancestor are you?

Posted on March 23, 2013 by dgermann

Whose ancestor are you? Are you doing the kind of ancestoring they need? :- Doug.

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For how long do we want our family to continue?

Posted on March 22, 2013 by dgermann

For how long do we want our family to continue? As elders we’re the ones with clear enough vision to see into the future 10 years, a generation, seven generations, a thousand years, a million. As harried as our society … Continue reading →

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Weaving paths through the woods

Posted on March 21, 2013 by dgermann

Our job as lawyers is to weave a path through the woods. There will always be woods, and there will always be paths needing weaving. :- Doug.

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You want the answer

Posted on March 20, 2013 by dgermann

Nelson Mandela started his biggest conversation, the one that ended Apartheid, while in solitary confinement. What conversation can we start, given our life condition? What higher purpose do we own that will get us beyond our walls? :- Doug.

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Nelson Mandela’s biggest conversation was in solitary

Posted on March 19, 2013 by dgermann

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With Elders’ Eyes

Posted on March 18, 2013 by dgermann

We should honor not only our insights but our pain and even our despair for our world. Avoiding it, running away from our pain and despair, is doing us no good. If we look with long-view eyes, wise eyes, elders’ … Continue reading →

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The Three Ds:

Posted on March 17, 2013 by dgermann

We help families losing a loved one to the three Ds: Dementia, Death, and Decrepancy. :- Doug.

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The case of Lorraine Bayless

Posted on March 16, 2013 by dgermann

The case of Lorraine Bayless is a perfect example: an 87 year old for whom no CPR was given holds a mirror up for us of the complexity of our end of life. We have a 75% idea about CPR … Continue reading →

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Our dog begs from us play

Posted on March 15, 2013 by dgermann

Our dog begs from us food and play and a walk, showing joy in being with us. Asking, playing: a way we too can give. :- Doug.

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Here might be our highest value

Posted on March 14, 2013 by dgermann

When our eyes meet— When our ears meet— Passes between us humanity & here might be our highest value :- Doug.

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asking for a bit of you

Posted on March 13, 2013 by dgermann

In conversation I am giving myself away asking for a bit of you leaving you free to make the gift. :- Doug.

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