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Elder Caring Lawyer

Burden is a way of saying

Posted on July 22, 2013 by dgermann

Burden is a way of saying “Poor, poor me,” of asking for help to see one’s worth now. A person who seeks help still has worth, is still a person. :- Doug.

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I don’t understand “being a burden”

Posted on July 21, 2013 by dgermann

I don’t understand what “being a burden” means. Please tell me what you imagine it means. What you have seen, felt, and heard? :- Doug.

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Dying is never entirely personal

Posted on July 20, 2013 by dgermann

Dying and suffering are never Entirely personal Those who love also suffer and die :- Doug.

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There is only one

Posted on July 17, 2013 by dgermann

Share the heart There is only one We know, we know :- Doug.

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about justice but more than that

Posted on July 16, 2013 by dgermann

It’s about justice but more than that It’s so no one will be made to suffer That we must converse about end of life :- Doug.

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Can we better help those approaching death?

Posted on July 15, 2013 by dgermann

Can we better help those approaching death? Can we do death better? Let’s get very specific, speak of your job—we each have a role, from nurse to banker. :- Doug.

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Traces of the whole

Posted on July 14, 2013 by dgermann

Traces of the whole in each part Too the other way round Work to see & skill In you & me & today our traces :- Doug.

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The way we make this the best place to die is to sand our fingertips: to develop our sensitivity to people and their way of dying. Our compassion. We put ourselves in their shoes—won’t we get there someday, too? How … Continue reading →

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What does it mean to have not wisdom?

Posted on July 12, 2013 by dgermann

To my friends in the wisdom class: At 66 years of age What does it mean to not have wisdom? To have not depth? At what age does it arrive? Can anyone teach me How to find it? :- Doug.

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News: renewing our resolve for respecting patient’s wishes

Posted on July 11, 2013 by dgermann

Friends– Here is a Senate hearing on “Renewing the Conversation: Respecting patients’ Wishes and Advance Care Planning” from June 26, 2013. Worth a look. http://www.aging.senate.gov/hearing_detail.cfm?id=344148& :- Doug.

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an occasion worth celebrating

Posted on July 11, 2013 by dgermann

This is an occasion worth celebrating this drinking water over breakfast together :- Doug.

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Writing Wills, gathering wills

Posted on July 10, 2013 by dgermann

I write Wills and gather wills. :- Doug.

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to face the word “death”

Posted on July 9, 2013 by dgermann

It may be courage that we need: to face the word “death,” to look upon a real person dying, to confront our own. :- Doug.

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After paper is shreds & pen is broken

Posted on July 8, 2013 by dgermann

After years of writing —contracts, letters, Wills, poems— I find I have been forming myself working on what remains after paper is shreds & pen is broken :- Doug.

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Ir is the name of the window

Posted on July 7, 2013 by dgermann

Ir is the name of the window Through which I the poet enter— Irrelevance Irreverence Sometimes its meaning skips the Ir :- Doug.

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To squeeze out a single drop

Posted on July 6, 2013 by dgermann

To squeeze out a single drop of your life’s essence is your highest gift to the world :- Doug.