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Never get to nothing more we can do

We are faced with a powerful combination—we don’t know when we’re dying; we never get to “nothing more we can do.” So we keep pushing the gas pedal. The brakes are not necessary: can’t we coast gently to rest? :- … Continue reading

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Why at the end of life do we make poor decisions?

Why at end of life do we make poor decisions? There are several issues interrelated: 1. we don’t anymore know when someone is dying; 2. we want to hang on to life, but we have not thought about what living … Continue reading

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We have tried this at home

We have tried this at home. The results have been pretty good. Let’s keep making better. :- Doug.

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The system fights love

The system fights back against love. Yet I tell you: we are the system. Moreover: we are the love. :- Doug.

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Alzheimer’s is not a solitary disease

Alzheimer’s is not a solitary disease It is the dis-ease of being made solitary :- Doug.

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Love is not

Love is not What we think It is :- Doug.

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The words we lose

The words we lose The beauty we find The beauty takes away our breath :- Doug.

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Unsafe for whom?

Unsafe for whom? The nursing home patient or the nursing home administration? :- Doug.

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Love is not normal

Love is not normal Love is not comfortable Until you dare :- Doug.

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The nurses and CNAs

The nurses and CNAs are untapped resources of information, intelligence, and heart. They are the sensitive fingertips of the beast, able to detect, able to handle delicate operations: able to bring meaning and human touch to a mechanical checklist—if we … Continue reading

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Memory may be stored between the cells

Memory may be stored in the betweens of cells, the neighborhoods of the cells, the dendrites. There are more than a few connections made by each cell. If one cell dies, then do our memories run up a road ending … Continue reading

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People with people

People with people working on caring for one another we are. :- Doug.

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Let’s not steal from someone their death

Let’s not steal from someone their death. :- Doug.

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Mechanical deaths

People are dying mechanical deaths Ventilator, respirator, stomach tubes, O! Couldn’t we spare them our own human touch? :- Doug.

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People are dying

People are dying Far from gently Far from home We can make it better We can bring them home :- Doug.

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My dream a world conversing

My dream a world conversing And look! It’s working! Traffic flows on streets and highways Business and government intermix Flowing around each other Ambulances, police, fire All one people helping people, loving Conversing :- Doug.

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might not get better. But we can

People in nursing homes might not get better. But we can. We can treat them better. More importantly, they can live meaningfully. They can have light in their eyes. :- Doug.

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