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Die a death fitting for your living

Posted on March 9, 2015 by dgermann

This chapter can reframe All the rest Die a death fitting for your living This is the Work Here your spirit shows through Now you teach now you learn Up you might go as you away This can be your … Continue reading →

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How long do you want to die?

Posted on March 9, 2015 by dgermann

How long do you want to die? Should your final illness and suffering last 3 hours, 3 days, 3 months? What if your level of pain were 3, 7, or 10? How long if the level of suffering for your … Continue reading →

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caring for one another

Posted on March 9, 2015 by dgermann

When it comes to end of life caring for one another, let us preempt the culture. :- Doug.

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We do not have courage to love

Posted on March 8, 2015 by dgermann

We do not have the courage to love. We do not know how to find the courage to love. You work in a nursing home. You are not a manager. You want to be caring to those you are given … Continue reading →

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he-he

Posted on March 8, 2015 by dgermann

Every time you and your wife interact, you are a different you, she a different she-she and you a different he-he. :- Doug.

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Will I be relevant to me?

Posted on March 8, 2015 by dgermann

Will I be relevant to me? A year or two from now? A step or two down my road? :- Doug.

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Her way

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

Her way—what are her ways? How can we honor that when she’s dying? :- Doug.

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Making the decision easier?

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

Is asking What would Dad want a way of making our decision easier? Yes, and that is not bad. But sometimes we need to think harder and more deeply for ourselves—and them. What is a good child to do? :- … Continue reading →

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My family will do the right thing?

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

My family will do the right thing. But how will they know? Unless I tell them? :- Doug.

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Why is ventilator hell?

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

Why is ventilator hell? :- Doug.

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open and trade

Posted on March 6, 2015 by dgermann

What I open is my heart What I trade is my story :- Doug.

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From my tree stand

Posted on March 6, 2015 by dgermann

From my tree stand I photograph what goes on just below how you—we—enculturated enculturating treat those a few years ahead of us in line :- Doug.

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Now I don’t matter

Posted on March 6, 2015 by dgermann

Now I don’t matter I don’t care I don’t know the difference Your actions speak Even in Now My individuality matters I am not a thing Grist for your mill A task in your list I am A person Who … Continue reading →

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Elderly is a dismissal;

Posted on March 5, 2015 by dgermann

Elderly is a dismissal; Elder is a term of respect, reverence, veneration :- Doug.

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anger and the expected

Posted on March 5, 2015 by dgermann

There’s a disconnect between What we expected and what happens That’s where the anger works us :- Doug.

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to see inside a person

Posted on March 5, 2015 by dgermann

You can see inside a person by the questions He or she asks —and does not ask :- Doug.

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If we pour this water

Posted on March 4, 2015 by dgermann

If we pour this water on this snow will it melt the snow or be frozen by it? Both in turn For as water it is warmer then it cools and freezes till in spring both melt, become one and … Continue reading →

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