Monthly Archives: March 2011

Why is “I love you” important to us?

What are the 100 important daily things you want to do up to the moment you die? The things that make living worth going on? Last night I asked this of a group of people and got responses like Ride … Continue reading

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The healing work of a lawyer

The healing work of the lawyer includes also healing the family over this losing of Mom and Dad to a disease or a grave, slowly or suddenly. How do we, together, heal your family? What does your family need? What … Continue reading

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What to say to caregivers?

What to say to these caregivers? Not much. Simply invite to wholeness. Ask what are the good times? Are there compensations? What is working you these days? :- Doug.

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A Will is a wish that another be well.

Weal is related to will and wish and well. So a Will is a Wish that another be Well. It pulls us out of ourselves to think of another, to think of the other’s well-being. :- Doug.

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Law is healing work

Law is one of the three original healing professions. I work to extend that healing work. :- Doug.

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Very common

To die is very common: everyone does it. We do not have to fret over it: it will come as it comes and we have only a little say. But the say we have might be important to those around … Continue reading

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Common

Touch a hand hear a pain hug a child make love make a Will drink hot chocolate with a friend worship To die is very common :- Doug.

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Expectancy?

Do you have a life expectancy Or an expectancy of life? :- Doug.

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Making a Will is not a math problem

Making a Will is not a math problem: it is a blood, sinew and brain question: How Will I love you? :- Doug.

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The helping goes both ways

The point of conversation in elder caring is not that you need an expert to navigate this getting older maze but that we need each other. Our group brain is bigger than any one of our brains. When you come … Continue reading

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The Hospice Holler

This is a story of a Granddaughter trying to get her Grandmother into an nursing home. Grandmother had been in hospice care.   When the caseworker found out they were planning to give all Grandmother had away and enter the … Continue reading

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Inherit from me?

What, son, would you like to inherit from me? :- Doug.

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Matching gifts with recipients

Most folks have not thought very widely or deeply about how to make a Will—or even at all.   Look at it this way: over your life you have collected a whole lot of good stuff, and some of it … Continue reading

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Of Wills, dumping and arranging

When you make your Will, are you making a dump cake, or a better future (for your kids, for others)? How wide do you stir? Are you merely unloading the dump truck, or are you consciously arranging your gifts to … Continue reading

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Mom’s flower bed

Mom’s flower bed Won’t get tended this year Dad is lost Sis will plant the annuals & I will weed Dad is lost & needs our help Our children will be calling us & life does tug Dad is becoming … Continue reading

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Joy of burden

In your old age Give your children and grandchildren The joy of the burden of you :- Doug.

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