Monthly Archives: April 2017

If we are developing

Posted on April 25, 2017 by dgermann

If in fact we are developing, can we choose, and how ought we choose, to develop? For whom? For God, for community, for grandchildren? Harder still, what must die? :- Doug.

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A dying appropriate

Posted on April 25, 2017 by dgermann

Our reflections can address What is it we are about, now? They can also show us a threshold: a dying appropriate if we are to become elders. :- Doug.

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Stop talking

Posted on April 25, 2017 by dgermann

Stop talking so much! Converse! :- Doug.

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To ease, clear, calm, gentle

Posted on April 24, 2017 by dgermann

Dying is perhaps a time to ease, to clear, to calm, to gentle. :- Doug.

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Ripe times

Posted on April 24, 2017 by dgermann

More times than we would guess are ripe times for reflection. :- Doug.

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Honor your insights

Posted on April 24, 2017 by dgermann

Honor your insights Notice the longer view O elder :- Doug.

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Peacefully, comfortably

Posted on April 23, 2017 by dgermann

People can and do die peacefully, comfortably. :- Doug.

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Use well the time

Posted on April 23, 2017 by dgermann

Is being in hospital a good way to use well the time you have left? :- Doug.

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Struggling or peaceful?

Posted on April 23, 2017 by dgermann

Should you die struggling or peaceful? :- Doug.

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Crazy talk sense

Posted on April 22, 2017 by dgermann

The sense to use with crazy talk in the dying is Let’s find out. Be curious. Ask. He might just be using metaphor or saying it in story. She might just want assurances that you will be OK, that she … Continue reading →

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Discussing without conversing

Posted on April 22, 2017 by dgermann

Discussing without conversing is butterfly without flowers. :- Doug.

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Listening without hearing

Posted on April 22, 2017 by dgermann

Listening without hearing is a common wasted effort. :- Doug.

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Being done to

Posted on April 21, 2017 by dgermann

In a hospital you’re being done to, no questions please; in hospice you are doing, all questions welcome. :- Doug.

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Your heart, mind, body

Posted on April 21, 2017 by dgermann

What’s on your heart, mind, body? When you think about your end of life, do you feel it in some part of your body—your stomach, upper arms, feet? :- Doug.

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Plan your EOL conversation

Posted on April 21, 2017 by dgermann

Ask yourself to plan your end of life conversation: What will you do? Is there someone you need to speak with? What bit of life is then most important? Where will you meet? When? :- Doug.

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Deeply ever deeply

Posted on April 20, 2017 by dgermann

Deeply ever deeply how to meet? close your eyes to see where is the fear? the broken open heart? :- Doug.

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Guardianship is the price

Posted on April 20, 2017 by dgermann

Guardianship is the price for not having a power of attorney. :- Doug.

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