Monthly Archives: March 2016

Families too easily fall into

Families too easily fall into “you should” mode rather than “that’s profound—beautiful—poignant.” :- Doug.

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Old is a definite developmental

Old is a definite developmental stage some folks are privileged to go through. :- Doug.

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Life is the work

Life is the work they are doing, the converse of which they are part. :- Doug.

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Finally have enough material

In old age we finally have enough material to make something of ourselves! :- Doug.

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What is the work?

What is the work people—even people with dementia—are doing in old age? :- Doug.

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Deeper if I let them

People will go deeper if I let them, if for instance I do not step on their lines. :- Doug.

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How old?

How old do you want to be when you die? Young-old? Old-old? :- Doug.

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POST is for after

Living Wills, Durable Health Care Powers of Attorney, and the like are for before I get a diagnosis. POST is for after. :- Doug.

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Kettle of final truth

Went to a medical conference yesterday. These people are busy telling each other that statistics and graphs are the kettle of final truth. :- Doug.

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Don’t be afraid

Don’t be afraid. Other people are not apart from you. They are a part of you. We are in profound territory. :- Doug.

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If, now.

Advance Directives: If, then. POST: If, now. :- Doug.

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I own this

I own this. I start the conversation. :- Doug.

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Time is relative in age

Time is relative in age. Visits to years ago may take seconds in others’ clock time and months in subjective time. :- Doug.

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Our spatial aspect

Our spatial aspect makes us appear as objects with mass and our time aspect as processes involving equivalent energy. Our matter and activity cannot be separated: they are facets of the same reality. This is equally true of old-old people. … Continue reading

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the further we advance

The further we advance into persons the more activity (conversation) among them we discover. The closer we look the more restless and dynamic the picture. People cannot be separated from their correlations. The more we confine them (such as in … Continue reading

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must happen in the family

The main conversation has to happen in the family. If the doctor has had a conversation with the patient, and then the family are the only ones conscious, things can get turned around. So doctors should be encouraging the conversation … Continue reading

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People can take truth

People can take truth if it’s not sugar coated. The even become hopeful. We do not know the essence of their hope. Maybe it is not to become free of disease. Maybe it is to hug their children one last … Continue reading

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