Monthly Archives: April 2013

End of life, compassionately?

How can we do end of life more compassionately? :- Doug.

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People are dying out there

People are dying out there. Some fear over treatment, some fear abandonment. They have a stake in how they are treated and cared for; so do their families; so do their health carers; and perhaps others as well. We can … Continue reading

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Life gives forth life

People perceive all different aspects of the divine. Let us let them live, for life gives forth life. :- Doug.

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POST is a flapping of butterfly wings

POST is a flapping of butterfly wings, a little thing, starting. :- Doug.

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Loving is conversing

Loving is conversing. :- Doug.

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People around us stand to have pain, remorse….

People around us stand to have a great deal of pain, remorse, guilt, anger and more around our deaths. We can do something about that now while we are healthy and later nearing our deaths. We must open space for … Continue reading

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Study: Costs of caregiving to Employers

MetLife has published a study on the costs to employers of having someone on staff caring for a family member. For instance, the healthcare costs for that employee are 8% higher for those with eldercare responsibilities. Take a look here. … Continue reading

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What role for family?

What of the role of the family and others who love the dying person? Are they merely empty conduits for the carrying of information? How can we love our families in the ways we choose to die? Should we for … Continue reading

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When Dad lies there dying….

When Dad lies there dying how might we best love Dad and one another? Or when we are not clear that Dad is dying? :- Doug.

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The cool washcloth brigade

Together let us invent for the dying among us, the cool washcloth brigade. :- Doug.

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Why do we separate the dying from others?

Why do we separate the dying from others? Of course they want to bring their ambit in ever narrower, but is this always good? Might there be some good in speaking with, being with, one another? ;- Doug.

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If these are at odds, which do you choose?

If these are at odds, which do you choose? A. Life sustaining treatment B. Treatment that provides comfort, relieves suffering, and promotes doing your own activities of daily living :- Doug.

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Could family and friend caregivers come together…?

Could family and friend caregivers come together to help our national community better support the ones for whom we care? Perhaps we could concentrate on the three main trajectory disease groups: cancers and their cliffs; chronic heart diseases and emphysema … Continue reading

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The work of dying is about….

The work of dying is about conversing with: your self; meaning; the incomprehensibility of dying; family; community; something larger. :- Doug.

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Birth is a terminal condition….

Birth is a terminal condition. So we are working on our dying even today, in good health, while our daily rounds continue. This conversing about what care we want at end of life is saying I love you to one … Continue reading

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When you are dying….

When you are dying what is the work you are doing? :- Doug.

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The Work and the Words of Dying?

What are The Work and Words of Dying? :- Doug.

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