Monthly Archives: March 2013

Local data?

How can we collect good and bad death data from local hospitals and nursing homes? :- Doug.

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A place for practical peace

How do you want to die? This goes deeper than Where and With whom? What is important about dying: fighting all the way? Not for me and I suspect for most folks. Going gently, comfortably, without violence, without strife. Here … Continue reading

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Is dying simple, complicated or complex?

Is how we get to die simple, complicated, or complex? So, should our response, our thinking ahead, match? :- Doug.

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Prepared for any death?

Can we be prepared for any—our—death? What then to do? :- Doug.

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What’s to hope for?

What’s to hope for? How does our society view death? Is death always bad? :- Doug.

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I represent dying people…to you

I represent dying people…to you I represent your mother, father, sister, husband, wife I represent the older you to you Generations of dying people—us To us Asking us to consider what is a good death & how we can get … Continue reading

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Someone who died well….

Tell us a story of someone who died well…. Tell us what the people around that person did to help make it good. :- Doug.

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Can you identify these elders?

I need your help to identify elders who bring wisdom and a longer view to those around them and the world…. :- Doug.

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Whose ancestor are you?

Whose ancestor are you? Are you doing the kind of ancestoring they need? :- Doug.

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For how long do we want our family to continue?

For how long do we want our family to continue? As elders we’re the ones with clear enough vision to see into the future 10 years, a generation, seven generations, a thousand years, a million. As harried as our society … Continue reading

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Weaving paths through the woods

Our job as lawyers is to weave a path through the woods. There will always be woods, and there will always be paths needing weaving. :- Doug.

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You want the answer

Nelson Mandela started his biggest conversation, the one that ended Apartheid, while in solitary confinement. What conversation can we start, given our life condition? What higher purpose do we own that will get us beyond our walls? :- Doug.

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Nelson Mandela’s biggest conversation was in solitary

Nelson Mandela started his biggest conversation, the one that ended Apartheid, while in solitary confinement. What conversation can we start, given our life condition? What higher purpose do we own that will get us beyond our walls? :- Doug.

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With Elders’ Eyes

We should honor not only our insights but our pain and even our despair for our world. Avoiding it, running away from our pain and despair, is doing us no good. If we look with long-view eyes, wise eyes, elders’ … Continue reading

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The Three Ds:

We help families losing a loved one to the three Ds: Dementia, Death, and Decrepancy. :- Doug.

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The case of Lorraine Bayless

The case of Lorraine Bayless is a perfect example: an 87 year old for whom no CPR was given holds a mirror up for us of the complexity of our end of life. We have a 75% idea about CPR … Continue reading

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Our dog begs from us play

Our dog begs from us food and play and a walk, showing joy in being with us. Asking, playing: a way we too can give. :- Doug.

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