Monthly Archives: August 2012

When we change our choices

When we change our choices, it is often that something new informs the criteria upon which we base our choices: our fundamentals have remained constant. :- Doug.

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When we seek to hold off death

When we seek to hold off death are we extending suffering? Do we increase the length of pain? Could we increase what’s good in death? What do we value? Consciousness, control of pain, interchange with family, friends, spirituality, religion, music, … Continue reading

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Is dying important?

Is dying important? Is being born? Is how we die important? Important for what? For whom? :- Doug.

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Dying well?

Do you know someone who died well? Do you know someone who was prevented from dying well? :- Doug.

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Effortlessly the eagle wheels

Effortlessly the eagle wheels Wings have found A thermal lifting, lifting … … … CPR! Crash carts! Staccato orders! Beep, beep, beep Screaming flat lines! Raging, raging Against The dying of the light … … … Too much, too much … Continue reading

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Living our dying

What is important about people choosing their own way of living their dying? :- Doug.

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Your end of life conversation?

What would you like your end of life conversation with your family to be? :- Doug.

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Conveners of the conversation

As lawyers we are conveners of the conversation. Every time we meet clients, every time we lift the phone or write an email, every time we talk with anyone we convene a conversation. We can consciously use these conversations for … Continue reading

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Our ethical task

Our ethical task is to somehow find each other, to help each other find our own way. :- Doug.

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What is more important than that?

In family, in community, we can help each other live well. What is more important than that? :- Doug.

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sticking our nose in

Sometimes we are called to stick our nose in where we might otherwise think it did not belong. :- Doug.

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If we can’t laugh

If we can’t laugh, what sanity is there? :- Doug.

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Your last 30 years

Your last 30 years What good will you? :- Doug.

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Something large we can give away

The something large we can give away is conversation: within the family, between patient and physician, between client and lawyer. Conversation informs, conversation reshapes, conversation creates. :- Doug.

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Denying each other

As to dying our own deaths consider how we deny each other our own deaths by chemotherapy continued too long, looking for a cure when healing is what we really want, not giving comfort measures, dying in a violent and … Continue reading

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The right thing to do

It is the right thing to do, to start this conversation. Give away something big and important. :- Doug.

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An ethical question

Here is the ethical question I see: Ought we lawyers and doctors, parents and children to tell people of their right to their own death? Ought we with them to open the conversation about their choices, to help them choose? … Continue reading

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