Monthly Archives: May 2012

First years, last years

Posted on May 30, 2012 by dgermann

What’s the same for first years and last are soft food, help with walking, incontinence. Might a difference be in our rhythms? Infants are constantly going, their arms and legs and faces a continual moving picture. Oldsters seem to be … Continue reading →

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Your question as an act of service

Posted on May 29, 2012 by dgermann

What is the most profound question you could ask yourself as you think about end of life? How is that an act of service? :- Doug.

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The last three days:

Posted on May 29, 2012 by dgermann

The last three days: Who is there? What is the work you are doing? Is it all about you, or are you eldering your children and grandchildren? :- Doug.

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The question that heals:

Posted on May 28, 2012 by dgermann

What are your areas of discomfort? “What ails thee?” This is the question that heals. :- Doug.

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“They know what I want.”

Posted on May 28, 2012 by dgermann

You cannot know what you want until you meet it in conversation. Here you discover and form. “They know what I want” can be avoidance of the questions. :- Doug.

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If you think you might die someday….

Posted on May 27, 2012 by dgermann

If you think you might die some day, what are you willing to do to make that better for your children and grandchildren? When? :- Doug.

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Slow the rhythms

Posted on May 27, 2012 by dgermann

What are the most health stimulating, wholeness inducing rhythms we can employ in elder caring lawyering? Slow the rhythms, open: allowing for all voices to be heard, from piccolo to bassoon, from kettle drum to marimba, from plaintive violin to … Continue reading →

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With Mom: we are all in the nursing home.

Posted on May 26, 2012 by dgermann

With Mom: we are all in the nursing home. :- Doug.

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When we are dying, how can we help our family?

Posted on May 25, 2012 by dgermann

When we are dying, what can we do to help our family? What does my death teach them? My life? How profound can we be for them? :- Doug.

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To speak of a right to die is silly

Posted on May 24, 2012 by dgermann

To speak of a right to die is silly—as if we were not all going to die. The right we want is the right to the kind of death we want—gentle, noticed, felt. :- Doug.

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What’s possible?

Posted on May 23, 2012 by dgermann

How can I die the death I want if I don’t know what’s possible? :- Doug.

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A right to our own deaths

Posted on May 22, 2012 by dgermann

We should have a right to our own deaths. Yet we are stealing it from one another, throwing it under our wheels, or simply not knowing how to give it to one another. :- Doug.

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