What of the role of the family and others who love the dying person? Are they merely empty conduits for the carrying of information? How can we love our families in the ways we choose to die?
Should we for instance take into account the different, maybe violently different or extreme, views of other family members? How do we reconcile differences?
Do we take the lead and do the work of eldering and loving and tell our story close in? Do we talk about our desires to receive and give forgiveness, about thanking, saying goodbyes, giving our soul substance, saying I love you in many ways? Does this bring us together? What brings families together? Stories and memories and heart things, invitation. Speaking of pain and seeing suffering and listening to one another.
:- Doug.
