Category Archives: Emergency/Crisis Medical

On being a burden….

Posted on February 6, 2013 by dgermann

For most families you are being a burden if you deny your family the opportunity to care for you in your greatest crisis-time. :- Doug.

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“Directive” in “Advance Directive” says too much

Posted on January 26, 2013 by dgermann

The term “directive” in the phrase Advance Directives goes too far. First it seems obligatory, when what is going on is in the nature of a request: help me, use your best faculties to figure out what’s best for a … Continue reading →

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When do we ask a child?

Posted on January 14, 2013 by dgermann

When do we ask the child what they want? At the death of a guppy a puppy or Pappy? :- Doug.

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Something good in their hearts

Posted on January 12, 2013 by dgermann

Humans don’t so much convey to people as from them: Family does not know what is best for their loved one; Still, they have —beneath their unbending positions— something good in their hearts We as helpers are called to go … Continue reading →

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The silent vow

Posted on January 9, 2013 by dgermann

Don’t put off “until the time” sharing what you want when seriously ill: if you can converse at that time, it may happen that no one will want to break the silent vow of “keep life going.” You can exercise … Continue reading →

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Too early–so far–not yet

Posted on January 7, 2013 by dgermann

Let us use phrases like too early—so far—not yet. It is compassionate. It says there is more good to come, more good for us to find. Together. :- Doug.

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Something to give us

Posted on December 28, 2012 by dgermann

People in need have something to give us. All people have something for others. :- Doug.

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Uncertainty

Posted on December 19, 2012 by dgermann

Uncertainty is all we have :- Doug.

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Have you witnessed…?

Posted on November 23, 2012 by dgermann

Have you witnessed someone dying? How has that influenced your picture of how you want to die? :- Doug.

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Medicine is

Posted on November 9, 2012 by dgermann

Medicine is a friend touching your hand in the hospital, a doctor kindly telling you it is OK to say good-bye to your husband, another doctor saying people only die because I do not know enough to keep them alive. … Continue reading →

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Living until we die?

Posted on November 5, 2012 by dgermann

How then shall we live until we die? How shall we die as we live? Does dying have to be a separate thing, even with its mystery? :- Doug.

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How can they happen reliably?

Posted on October 29, 2012 by dgermann

How can we help the conversations happen reliably, involving as many of the group of care givers (of whatever profession), family and our living person? :- Doug.

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“Observation status”

Posted on October 21, 2012 by dgermann

“First, do no harm.” Yet with “observation status” you are doing harm: to the sick, the frail, our elders. :- Doug.

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Do you have a deathbed story?

Posted on October 10, 2012 by dgermann

Do you have a deathbed story? :- Doug.

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Do you want to go fighting or gently?

Posted on October 10, 2012 by dgermann

Do you want to go fighting or gently? :- Doug.

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The crisis you expected is not the crisis you get.

Posted on October 9, 2012 by dgermann

The crisis you expected is not the crisis you get. :- Doug.

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When we change our choices

Posted on August 31, 2012 by dgermann

When we change our choices, it is often that something new informs the criteria upon which we base our choices: our fundamentals have remained constant. :- Doug.

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