Monthly Archives: May 2015
whom we thought
We are not whom we thought we were Nor whom we might have wanted to be Yet here we are and we may then Find new selves in meeting birthed :- Doug.
now the process has become visible to us
Persons grow out of meeting: meeting-relation is the primary thing and the persons secondary and generated. What this leads me to is that the person is not the brain, the brain is not the person, and that more fundamental than … Continue reading
Cheshire cat
It is the relationship—the meeting—which is real, the genesis of self and same. Self and same are the same word. All stems from meeting, like the smile of the Cheshire cat, last to go, first to come. So too person … Continue reading
my life day
This is my life day —shouldn’t they all be?— a day in which I will live freely :- Doug.
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you your mind
Are you your little finger? Are you your bank account? Are you your job? Are you your work in the world? Are you your mind? :- Doug.
our riddle
our riddle touch our gossamer strands thee me the all there is especially when one of us is held in the arms of dementia: our brain shriveling away from us :- Doug.
The baseline law
Why is community disorganizing law? Because the law we have at base is life. We must revere life, we must intensify life, increase the degree of living we do, and those around us do. This can be a soft gentle … Continue reading
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You are really heard
You are really heard It really mattered That’s what humans do :- Doug.
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I was hurt
Perhaps approach this other person and say I was hurt. Be available. Be present. Offer and welcome. :- Doug.
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the person she or he was
She or he might not be the person she or he was, but she or he is not less than a person. :- Doug.
Posted in Aging, Caring, Conversation, Family, Healing and Wholeness, Poetry
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Come, be heard
Come, be heard :- Doug.
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the best that should happen now?
What is the best that should happen now? Why don’t you see to it? :- Doug.
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Paddle in the direction the river is going
If we concentrate on what people with Alzheimer’s are missing, on how their “condition” is affecting both of us, we stir up things for them, cause consternation, guilt, inferiority feelings and feelings of things not going rightly. But if we … Continue reading