Monthly Archives: May 2013

Goes a different place

Posted on May 15, 2013 by dgermann

It is good conversation goes a different place from where we imagined. :- Doug.

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Embarrassed to die???

Posted on May 14, 2013 by dgermann

“She would be embarrassed to die and wouldn’t want people around.” “Have you asked her?” :- Doug.

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The individual as the gold standard

Posted on May 13, 2013 by dgermann

The gold standard in much of our life in this culture, especially in the care of those approaching death, is the individual. What does that individual want? Yet each of us is made up of many of us: our parents, … Continue reading →

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The best place?

Posted on May 12, 2013 by dgermann

Can we be the best place in America to die? :- Doug.

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How then…?

Posted on May 11, 2013 by dgermann

How then shall we die? :- Doug.

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“As you wish”

Posted on May 10, 2013 by dgermann

How you are cared for as you die is about autonomy—you should be able to die as you wish—but also your “as you wish” can only be complete after hearing out your loving ones. When you die, a part of … Continue reading →

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Your last 5 things

Posted on May 9, 2013 by dgermann

What is the work of dying? Say you have days to weeks left; you are conscious, alert and pain free. Please ponder for a couple of moments what you would want to be doing during this time. Write at least … Continue reading →

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If a bureaucrat made your final decisions

Posted on May 8, 2013 by dgermann

What if your doctor said you had to choose between cure with lots of pain or no efforts to cure but pain would be relieved? What if it were not your doctor but a bureaucrat? When it comes to the … Continue reading →

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From autonomy to making room for family in eol

Posted on May 7, 2013 by dgermann

My thinking is turning gradually from the absolute standard of autonomy, making some room in my thinking for what are the wishes of the family, defining family as all those around who are approaching death with this person, who will … Continue reading →

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Conversing is Caring

Posted on May 6, 2013 by dgermann

Conversing is Caring. :- Doug.

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A catalyst for compassion

Posted on May 5, 2013 by dgermann

This is simple: we already have the knowledge, skills and technology to do better for those approaching death; we can use POST (Physician Orders for Scope of Treatment) as a catalyst for compassion. :- Doug.

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Invite people

Posted on May 4, 2013 by dgermann

Invite people to notice when they are doing well. :- Doug.

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Look about you

Posted on May 3, 2013 by dgermann

Encourage people to look about them in care of the dying. :- Doug.

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A system of compassion for the dying?

Posted on May 2, 2013 by dgermann

Is it possible to have a system of compassion for the dying today—in the face of restricted budgets, limited time, and a culture of we can fix anything? :- Doug.

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Are we doing death the best possible?

Posted on May 1, 2013 by dgermann

Are we doing death the best possible? Are we supporting the dying? Are we the best place in America to die? :- Doug.

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