Monthly Archives: June 2012

Should family stay together?

Posted on June 15, 2012 by dgermann

When you are considering Long-Term Care for Mom or Dad, is family important? Is it important to you that your family works together, stays together? Then getting together on purpose in a way that gets all possibilities and all issues … Continue reading →

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How important is family?

Posted on June 14, 2012 by dgermann

How important is family to us now? :- Doug.

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What is our nature in this family?

Posted on June 13, 2012 by dgermann

What is our nature in this family? What is our responsibility? What is our possibility? :- Doug.

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A special couple

Posted on June 11, 2012 by dgermann

  In 1998 I was attending a continuing legal education seminar in Indianapolis, and it was the first time I had been downtown since the new Center City Mall had opened, so I decided to go there for lunch.   … Continue reading →

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When the end of life conversation is difficult

Posted on June 10, 2012 by dgermann

Sometimes, the end of life conversation is difficult because we do not know what options are open to us, when we might say enough, about what subjects we might converse. :- Doug.

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O Elder!

Posted on June 8, 2012 by dgermann

O Elder! You generate centuries! You generate me! You generate us! :- Doug.

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A pearl upon a strand

Posted on June 7, 2012 by dgermann

Consider what might be a God’s-eye view of our lives and our families: a pearl upon a strand. Can we see death as a chapter, not an ending? There is one life, and it lives on. :- Doug.

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Your birth and death are prelude

Posted on June 7, 2012 by dgermann

Your birth and death are each prelude to what happens next—for your family, for our tribe, for humanity. :- Doug.

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Not a beginning nor ending

Posted on June 6, 2012 by dgermann

For the family, birth or death of one of its members is a chapter, an event to be marked, yet not a beginning nor ending. Something is lost and something gained: through all, the whole grows. How does your family … Continue reading →

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How much caring is there?

Posted on June 6, 2012 by dgermann

There are tragedies out there in health care. In a world that says it is about care, how much caring is there? :- Doug.

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Have you had the end of life conversation?

Posted on June 5, 2012 by dgermann

Have you had the end of life conversation? If not, when? How will you begin? Whom do you love enough to have the conversation? Whom among your clients and patients do you love enough to help get this conversation started? … Continue reading →

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We enact family

Posted on June 5, 2012 by dgermann

Breathing together, we enact family, we enact together. Breathing together, we learn the other person, we enter their inside, their way of thinking, being and feeling. Breathing together, we realize that we are one, that even if we don’t think … Continue reading →

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Love around the death bed

Posted on June 4, 2012 by dgermann

Let us speak of going beyond living in a “normal” (actually subdued, greyed-over) community, where everybody is marching toward the grave with as little pain as possible. Let us speak of having the pain, having the ecstasy, having the full … Continue reading →

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A memory box

Posted on June 4, 2012 by dgermann

A memory box can be a way to start the conversation: here are some pictures, some ribbons, some pressed flowers; here are some documents; here is what I want…. :- Doug.

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If death were not for keeps

Posted on June 3, 2012 by dgermann

What if we did not see death as for keeps, but as a chapter, a pearl on a continuing string? The family, the tribe, the story goes forward. Someone is born, and destined to change the drama. Someone dies and … Continue reading →

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A family in medical crisis

Posted on June 2, 2012 by dgermann

Say you have a family with a medical crisis. Consider the scenarios that could happen here. Consider more than one. There are always more than one good choice. Open some conversation, engage them in what is possible, not just now, … Continue reading →

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Gentle and kind and respecting….

Posted on June 1, 2012 by dgermann

How can I make sure I get end of life treatment that is gentle and kind and respects my wishes? :- Doug.

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